My name is [Sepia Brown] and I do NOT own a car.
* insert collective gasp*
Yes, I’m fully aware that it’s 2011 and there are dangerous people out there who want to attack beautiful women walking in the dark and make them their love slaves, but I feel pretty safe.
I work, live, run, and play in the same area. God set it up that way, so I don’t really worry about transportation on an everyday basis.
How do I get around? The bus.
Can I afford a car? Yup.
Will I buy a car anytime soon? The jury’s still out on that one.
Buying a car would add a few unnecessary and unwanted bills.
The cost of the car (even if I don’t finance, the car isn’t free).
GAS!!! (I almost fainted just typing that word.)
I’d much rather save up for something more valuable.
I’ve weighed the pros and cons of having vs. not having a car. It’s something I can live without.
My dad constantly asks when I’m going to get a car (when he buys me one). People in my neighborhood wonder what a “pretty girl like me” is doing walking. (Doesn’t everyone have the capacity to walk?)
We’ve been conditioned to think that not having a car is a sense of poverty. Well, the last time I checked I was neither poor or struggling. Don’t get me wrong, if someone wants to purchase a 2011 black on black C-Class Mercedes for a poor young woman like myself, feel free. Contact me for my address!!!
Sure, a car is a necessity for some. Not me. If I had a car I’d still take the bus. A bus ride is $2. You can’t get a gallon of gas for that much. Do the math. Imagine how much you’d save if you took public transportation just a few days per week.
I travel by bus almost every day. The people who love me and “tolerate” my lack of vehicular transportation pick me up and take me places only when I need them to. I’m pretty independent. I hardly, if ever, call my BFF and say, “Hey, BFF, could you take me to *insert random place Sepia needs to go*”
Out of necessity I have mastered the Miami-Dade Transit System. What else would I do, wait for someone to come and get me?
A few years ago, you couldn’t beat me on a bus. Me? Take the bus? Ha! Yeah, right!!!
But I’ve grown a bit, and for close to 2 years, living in NYC, I didn’t drive once. My mode of transportation was the subway or city bus or cab. Cab fare gets expensive, so I was mainly swiping my Metro-Card to get from place to place. Yes, I’m aware that Miami is NOT New York and that things are spaced farther away, but that’s no excuse for me.
But what about dates, Sepia?
What about them? The bus goes EVERYWHERE.
Sure, right now, I’m not really actively dating, but when I start again on Neverary 32, 2110, I’m certain I won’t have a car then either. My supposed plan is that I’ll meet up with the guy. Generally, men like to pick you up and drop you off. Since I don’t need the inconvenience of having someone know where I live, I’ll pass on that. I can “bus” it.
What if the date is late? Um, simple. Don’t set late dates. There are tons of things I can do between 5 and 9 pm. My mode of transportation will certainly get me home at a decent hour. I’m sure I’ll probably never get a husband with no car! #sarcasm
I don’t want any of my readers to think I’m lacking something. I’m not. I just don’t have a car. It’s a choice. I choose not to buy one. Everyone has choices. Do with your money what you choose to. Make smart money decisions though. We are still in a recession.
In response to the awkward looks I get when I’m at the grocery store and get asked where I parked and reply, “the bus stop”: I don’t have DUI’s. I CAN drive (depending on who you ask). There’s nothing wrong with me. My legs work. I’m not an alien so stop looking at me crazy when I say I take the bus.
Taking the bus has allowed me to see parts of the city I wouldn’t normally drive through. I meet new people everyday. I’ve lost like 7 lbs just walking – another NYC trait (sometimes I’ll walk long distances in lieu of taking the bus or jitney). I’m more patient and time-conscious. And dare I say willing to date a guy without a car.
See, as a woman, it’s not a huge deal for me not to have a car, but men (in Florida and other cities where public transportation isn’t the sole means of in-town travel) have a different perspective on the matter.
I’d be open to hanging out with a guy without transportation because I’ve done it before. In the end, it’s just a car. It’ll teach sacrifice – especially if we don’t live in the same area.
Sure, I’m saying this as a single person with no responsibilities and I understand that once you add a child or groceries or a heavy box to the mix things get really complicated, but really weigh your needs vs. wants. Do I need a car? Not really.
Sometimes, when I wake up late, or need something really urgently, or it’s raining, or cold, or hot outside, I wish, for that inkling of a moment, that I owned a car. But there’s always someone I can call or someone calling me to make sure I have a way. For that, I’m thankful.
How necessary is having a car in your life? Share.